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Question: Yikes!!! should i continue to date him or not?

(Posted by: Louise M on 2010-02-09 00:31:13)

He shouts and gets angry for the slightest thing. He is very intolerant. He wants me to send him loving messages all the time, I do but not too many as we have only been dating 6 weeks. I want to take it slowly as I have been hurt before. Sometimes he cancels dates but wants me to be available all the time when it suits him. Once did not show up at all and never called me. He went off for the weekend with his friends witout telling me and had his phone switched off. I was waiting at home for his call. He never apologised but ended up shouting at me that I worried his brother as I phoned his brother asking where he was and his brother didn't know. Yet, he wants me to be available for him when it suits him and gets angry when I am not. He gets angry easily for little things and has a temper. So I am not really sure he is a great guy .... He has no education and works in a factory and ever second week works on the night shift. I am studying for my Masters. His last girlfriends were vulgar and uneducated, one worked as a stripper. He used to work as a stripper. He is jealous and controlling and told him that I don't need to see my friends much any more. The first night we slept together he took me to a hotel. I dont know why he didnt take me back to his place. Ive been there since. I told him that I had been hurt in the past and that I wanted to take it slowly. He shouted and got angry and said "Everyone has been hurt in the past. Just get over it " Another time he got really angry because I asked to change bars and go to the bar next door as there were no seats at the bar we were at. Once when we slept together I went to the bathroom to get condoms. Three days later he brought it up in an angry voice that I destroyed the romantic moment by going to the bathroom to get condoms. Another time we arranged a blind date between my friend and his best friend and he got all angry and said "why would he phone her again as she won't sleep wth him, she is just looking for friendship " and was even shouting. SHOULD I CONTINUE TO DATE HIM? WOULD MANY WOMEN TOLERATE THIS KIND OF BEHAVIOUR? He also told me that I talk too much about my friends and their lives and that I should only talk about me and him and our future together. Also, some of his friends occassionally go with prostitutes even though they are married. He is in the photo below. He is the one hunched down in the black t- shirt. http:/ / ch.tilllate.com/ en/ photoalbum/ overview/ 9241644#155077716

Posted by: Julia on 2010-02-09, 00:35:17

Dump the dude....he sounds like a controlling, abusive douchebag!! he also sounds very sketchy and not typically what you'd want in a relationship...doesn't sound normal...

Posted by: monstrosity on 2010-02-09, 00:41:26

Your first word is Yikes. That speaks volume. Everything else you typed after that just goes downhill from there concerning him. You've described him as an angry, insensitive, and controlling person. I didn't click on his pic. I don't need to.What he looks like shouldn't matter to me or you. You should be with someone who is treats you as a human and who loves you. The way you've described this guy makes me wonder if he even likes you. The answer is clear cut to me.

Posted by: magritha1251 on 2010-02-09, 00:41:31

No offense hun but this guys looks like the biggest creep ever. I think you already know the answer to this question. It's clear he doesn't respect you at all and you truly deserve better. I reckon just one of the points you have made would be enough to deter any woman from a man, let alone the several that you have provided! If he claims that safe sex is destroying a romantic moment then he clearly doesn't care if you get pregnant. I don't think any woman should tolerate this kind of bullsh*t in a relationship and good on you for realizing that this is not normal behavior. Just make sure that when you break up with him you do it some place safe or even over the phone, as he sounds like the kinda guy that wouldn't take to being dumped very well.

Posted by: ScroogexJones on 2010-02-09, 00:44:11

"Once when we slept together I went to the bathroom to get condoms. Three days later he brought it up in an angry voice that I destroyed the romantic moment by going to the bathroom to get condoms. " Oh please gimme a goddamn break, he wouldn't know romance if romance was giving him a bj. What he MEANT to say was I don't wanna use a condom. Plain & & simple. Honey to be blunt, he's an asshole, a controlling asshole at that, & & anyone who dates him must not respect herself OR have common sense. What the hell even attract'd you to him in the first place..? Now to be serious... You need to find someone on your level. He is not. You're smart, ambitious, & & deserve someone just as smart, who respects you. He does not. Because I can bet you're not even the only girl he's got on a leash. End it now, because his behavior won't get better, but worse. Much worse.. P.S. He's not even that hot. >_ >

Posted by: saywhatt87 on 2010-02-09, 00:48:16

You pretty much described a douche bag. And no women DO NOT tolerate this kind of behavior. Sounds like he is trying to isolate you from your friends so he can have better control of you, and inpregnate you since he got mad cuz you went to go buy a condom. I would recommend that you run and not look back STAT!! p.s. i don't think hes hot either

Posted by: Mr. Nerd 16 on 2010-02-09, 08:15:26

No you should not be with him any more he is very controlling dump his ass! and put him out on the street